Your Thoughts vs. Your Friends - What would your friends say about you at your funeral??

Last time in CSR 309 class, I was picked by Dr. Feinberg to do a demonstration. The demonstration was that a friend that I had in class was to go in the hallway while I tell Dr. Feinberg what I think my friend would say about me at my funeral. By the way, my friends name is Amy. While Amy was in the hallway, I listed several things I thought she would say about me such as I'm a good friend, I make my friends better, I'm honest, I'm goofy and outspoken. After I listed the things I thought she would say about me, he then called her back into the classroom. Amy came to the front of the class and he explained to her what was going on. She was to say what she would say about me at my funeral and she had to get at least 3 correct. She said a variety of things about me, however, she got 3 right even though Dr. Feinberg gave her credit for 2. She said that I was honest, I'm a good friend and that we have a lot of inside jokes (which to me implied the goofy aspect). The point of this exercise was to display to the class that what you think your friends would say about you may not always be correct. You should lead your life the way you want to be portrayed so that people speak that way about you. I was thoroughly impressed by the exercise. Maybe I am living the life that I want people to see me as...It was slightly apparent that my friend sees me in those ways that I expressed before she came into the class.

After class I asked my parents how they viewed me. Both of my parents said that they instilled a lot of values in me and I hold true to those values with my honesty and ability to speak up.

As for my professor, Dr. Feinberg, he said that he doesn't remember me even though I have made several attempts to be noticed in the class. I'm not the least bit offended but I am sure that it is hard to keep track of the many students he has each semester.

I feel accomplished to know that I am living some of the part that I think people are perceiving me as.

As I said after our demostration when Dr. Feinberg gave us a reward for participating in the exercise, "its an unbelievable gift", especially to know what I found out after the demonstration.